The Nice Guys: why we should all get over the antihero

 

I went on a hot date a couple weeks ago.

 

 

I’m still bothered by it.

 

 

We went to the movies to see a comedy. More lives were lost in the first 20 minutes of previews than anyone could’ve ever imagined. It was unbearable for me to watch.

 

Human life matters.

 

This is what I said to myself every time I gasped and closed my eyes in an attempt to unsee the casual massacre: human life matters.

 

 

Why are these previews SO violent!? I’m here to see a comedy!!!!

 

 

So guess what? That “comedy” starring Ryan Goesling and Russell Crowe is more of a dark violent action movie. That movie starts with me gasping, filling with adrenaline, closing my eyes, and whispering: human life matters. This is how I spend the next two hours.

 

 

For someone who has PTSD, The Nice Guys is not the best date night movie choice. I didn’t laugh at all. I literally felt sick to my stomach because I do not understand what is funny about murder.

 

 

In fact, I would be so bold as to say: murder is not funny at all.

 

 

When I heard the news about 50 people being shot dead and 53 people injured in Orlando, I closed my eyes and said that phrase 103 times.

 

 

the nice guys

 

 

I thought about all the movies I had ever seen. I thought about all the video games. I thought about HBO premium cable programming. I thought about music videos. I thought about brain washing. I thought about disconnect from self and others.

 

 

That’s what this is about. Disconnect. It starts with disconnection from self and spirals out of control from there.

 

 

Meanwhile, can you imagine actually looking a stranger in the eye and saying: I don’t know you but I love you. I love you because, like me, you are a human being and we are all here on this planet together. Can you imagine heart to heart hugging this person until you breathe together in a rhythm and can feel love going back and forth between your two hearts?

 

 

Would that be weird? Why?

 

 

Human life matters.

 

 

I don’t care what you have been taught. I don’t care what you have experienced. As a creator of life, I can promise you with 100% certainty: human life matters.

 

 

Act like it.

 

 

When our time here on Earth is up, we go into a life review. It’s like watching the coolest movie of all time. You get to see the story from way before you were born all the way into the future, far after you have already left; you get to see your legacy.

 

 

It’s not just seeing, by the way. You feel it. You feel what you are seeing. You feel the pain you caused others. You feel the joy you caused others. You feel and finally understand the big picture.

 

 

Life is about learning specific lessons. We each picked different ones before we were born. If we do a good job, we graduate. If we do a poor job, we come back and start over.

 

 

How do I know this?

 

 

I came here with that. I don’t know why. I brought it with me and I have always known it was the truth. I don’t care if you believe me or not. I just have to say what I know. I have to speak my truth.

 

 

My best piece of advice in this regard: make a practice out of honoring human life.

 

 

XO,

Rachel