I love my best friend!

My best friend, Kristen, can do anything.

 

Everyone, please say it with me now: Kristen can do anything.

 

I am focusing my supportive energy onto my best friend right now because she is about to do something big: go get her real estate license. Class starts tomorrow. I feel a sense of what my future will be when I proudly send my son to school in a few more years. Literally, I am bursting with pride and it is glorious!

 

Pride?

 

Yeah pride.

 

Do you still have your seventh grade BFF notebook?

 

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I do.

 

Did your best friend join the tense tennis team to hang out with you even though it precluded her from starring on the fun soccer team?

 

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Mine did.

 

That’s why I am not ashamed now (finally) at 32 years old to show this 8th grade Best Buddies yearbook shot:

 

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Hmmm….I am still pretty embarrassed about my circular face and 90’s glasses…but it is kind of funny now. Not as funny as Kristen was in our 9th grade musical:

 

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The hat? Those glasses?!

 

Kristen is SO funny. She is so funny because she is so smart. I love how her mind works. We have always been connected, able to understand and appreciate each other. Kristen’s brother used to remark often about how cool it was that we seemed to speak our own language to each other.

 

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You don’t want to know what we were actually thinking in this 9th grade semi formal picture. Pretend we think we look as beautiful as we actually do look.

 

When I think about Kristen, I always think that she can do anything. The example that usually pops into my head is not the best example of my own capabilities, but I am good at other stuff, so I don’t mind sharing:

 

I got a flat tire. I pulled over. I had just turned 21 and was going to Law School but I didn’t even think about changing the tire. I thought about how my step dad was out of town. I thought about how I have older brothers and no one was available to help me. While I thought about these things, Kristen got out of my car, got into my trunk and started pulling out the spare tire, asking me about a car jack.

 

I just stared at her.

 

Kristen stuck her head back into my trunk and pulled out some sort of lever. Then I watched her in awe as she changed the tire.

 

Because we were both 21, I took her out to celebrate my gratitude. I love her.

 

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Believe it or not, Kristen and I actually set our wedding dates one week apart (Kristen set her wedding date and then much later I sheepishly asked her if she would please travel to my destination wedding exactly one week after her own wedding and she said YES!). So my best friend and I planned our weddings at the same time.

 

We went to dress fittings at David’s Bridal:

 

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We are still working on our dressing room confidence faces.

 

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Kristen got married May 1, 2010 at the Botanical Gardens in Lackawanna, NY.

 

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On May 8, 2010, I got married at Emerald at Queensridge in Las Vegas, NV.

 

I treasure every moment of our wedding planning time together because I relocated to Las Vegas one month after my wedding. At first, it was no big deal.  But then I got pregnant.  And then 3 months later, Kristen got pregnant.

 

I really missed her presence. Kristen can do anything. My pregnancy was REALLY tough. So was hers. I was texting her pictures of me like, look how fat I am:

 

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And she would respond with her own picture of, look how fat I am:

 

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We should’ve been waddling around together!

 

Our babies only met one time when my son was 10 months old and her daughter was 7 months old:

 

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That is not enough. I cannot tell you how much I miss my best friend now that I have been living apart from her for 4 years.

 

Well, I can tell you what I did for my 32nd Birthday last November. That illustrates my point. Suddenly I decided I wanted to go fly to Buffalo and spend my Birthday with my best friend.   We bought plane tickets with less than 7 days before travel.

 

What was on my agenda?

 

Serious professional BFF photo shoot.

 

Yup. Big time. Botanical Garden photo shoot. I contacted the best photographer in WNY, Tanya of Tanya Kurnik images: http://www.imagesbytanyakurnik.com

 

Tanya is so beautiful, I did not even notice she was 8 months pregnant. She certainly made us 2 introverts feel very comfortable having our pictures taken. I think she’s so great.

 

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Remember our 8th grade Best Buddies year book picture?

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These are way better.

 

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Thank you Tanya!

 

So then we ate some chicken wings at Duffs and before I knew it, I was back home in Vegas. Missing Kristen.

 

A few months later I saw this Groupon for like 80% off Canvas on Demand and I went for it. I think you can tell by my face that this is the best $60 I have ever spent:

 

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If you miss your BFF, I recommend a 16×24 canvas of her professionally photographed face hung in your bedroom and your bathroom. As you can tell by her facial expression, she ALWAYS thinks I am funny no matter what.

 

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Kristen: you can do anything. I can’t wait to hear about your first day at school and I really wish I could be there with you, writing you notes in our old 7th grade notebook. I love you and am very grateful for our friendship.

 

XO

 

~Rachel

Heal your Self, heal the world

5 thoughts on “I love my best friend!

  1. This is a beautiful tribute to an amazing person. Kristen is really that awesome & I don’t know her the way that you do. But, I noticed something as you were writing & from those amazing pictures. Kristen thinks that you are just as amazing. Therefore, it must be true! I am so glad that you got these pictures. Now I need to go and get some taken with Crystal & Megan. But, it is those pictures (mostly selfies) that I have all over my dresser. You are amazing, even if you can’t change a tire!

    • Thank you, Melanie! Your observations always resonate with me. You SHOULD go get some professional BFF photos done, I stare at mine all the time and they truly fill me with joy. Thank you so much for your support, friend!

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